The desire is very strong in people. They pursue them at whatever price might be. The desires can be sex, earning money, power, wanting something and so on. This gives us a sense of achievement. Achievement may bring a certain pleasure, but it soon goes away and again we start pursuing another desire.
Whole religions, the monks have denied desire, though the desires are steaming inside them. The fire of desire is blazing, but they deny it by suppressing it. But it is still there inside. Most of us, when we become aware of our desires, either suppress or satisfy them.
We don’t recommend either to subdue it or to surrender to it or to hold it. That has been done entirely over the world by every religious person. Alternatively, simply examine your desires very closely and realize how it fares and its nature. Out of that understanding, one becomes intelligent. Instead of desire, the intelligence assets. This is nothing but knowing yourself.
Understanding your desires is a very difficult task initially. You are programmed either to suppress them because your religion says “It’s a sin to carry through your desires”. Or you indulge it so strong so you will become bored with it one day. Neither of them won’t work. Many people tried.
Desire-less, detachment, be free from desire, which is truly ridiculous, because desire has to be understood, not demolished.
You might be wondering, what will occur in the process of understanding your desires. Considerably, you have to find out the truth of desire yourself. Don’t evaluate your desires as being honorable or bad, or say, “I will maintain this desire and deny that one.”
Source(s): J. Krishnamurti, The Book of Life.